respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, "You're
- If you are
wrong, admit it quickly.
Begin in a friendly way.
Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately.
Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of
- Be sympathetic
with the other person's ideas and desires.
- Start with praise and appreciation.
Talk about a change not criticizing the other
- Ask questions
instead of giving direct orders.
Let the other person save face.
Praise the slightest improvement and praise every
- Give the
other person a fine reputation to live up to.
- Dont call it a fault
say its a change.
Make the other person happy about doing the thing you
How to Stop Worrying and Start Living
Fundamental facts you should know about worry
Live in the present Don't worry about the futures or your
past. Just live each day until bedtime.
The next time Trouble backs you up in a corner, try the
Remind yourself of the price you can pay for worry in terms
of your health. "Those who do not know how to fight worry
Ask yourself, "What is the worst that can possibly
happen if I can't solve my problem?
Prepare yourself mentally to accept the worst--if
calmly try to improve upon the worst--which you have
already mentally agreed to accept.
Basic techniques in analyzing worry
Get the facts. Remember "half the worry in the world is
caused by people trying to make decisions before they have
sufficient knowledge on which to base a decision."
After carefully weighing all the facts, come to a decision.
Once a decision is carefully reached, act! Get busy carrying
out your decision--and dismiss all anxiety about the
outcome.When you, or
any of your associates, are tempted to worry about a
problem, write out and answer the following questions:
What is the problem?
What is the cause of the problem?
What are all possible solutions?
What is the best solution?
How to break the worry habit before it breaks you
Crowd worry out of your mind by keeping busy. Plenty of
action is one of the best therapies .
Don't fuss about trifles. Don't permit little things--the
mere termites of life--to ruin your happiness.
Ask yourself: "What are the odds against this thing's
happening at all?"If
you know a circumstance is beyond your power to change or
revise, say to yourself: "It is so' it cannot be otherwise."
Decide just how much anxiety a thing may be worth--and
refuse to give it anymore.
Let the past bury its dead. Don't saw sawdust.
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